I’ve always admired women who have a quiet strength. You know who I’m talkin’ about – women who walk into a room and without even saying anything, they have your attention. The women who show up in either a sleek black suit or my fave – a pair of Saturday afternoon jeans and a simple white t-shirt – and display their confidence without resorting to overly flaunting their booty or boobies.
I know when you watch all these reality shows today it seems like the loud and cuh-razy girls finish first—and get all of the attention – because of their shenanigans, not because of their smarts. But in the real world, it’s the quiet girls you gotta keep an eye on. While loud girls want all the attention, the quiet ones are usually much more focused, have clearer intentions, and are mysterious and intriguing. Dontcha think? People want to know more about you when you don’t give it all away up front. Like, what’s behind those eyes? What is that chick thinking? What is she up to?
I was really quiet when I was younger – mainly ‘cuz I was shy and felt awkward being taller than most of the kids my age. But as I began to get more comfortable with who I was and who I was determined to become, I started to accept myself as a quiet, strong type. I began to model at 15, and y’all know the stories I’ve shared before about some of the awkward and sometimes straight-up-mean things I encountered being the new girl on the catwalk from some of the older (or louder!) girls. But I pressed on, and I always have, in my own way.
Now, y’all may know my wild and outgoing America’s Next Top Model personality, but I’m not like that in board meetings or at dinner parties! Sure, I have my sassy ‘tude on television, love to laugh and have fab nights out with my girlfriends, but I believe that in life, it’s all about finding the balance.
In history, it’s always those quiet but strong and confident women who made the biggest changes. Since it’s Black History Month, I started to think of all the powerful and resourceful women who led the path for us, no matter what their color. And I realized that there are black women, white women, women of all backgrounds who have done their part to move this country or community forward. You may not know their names, but trust me, they were there, and you should learn about them! Rosa Parks, Coretta Scott King, and Myrlie Evers-Williams are just three examples of why the strong, quiet types are not to be underestimated. And just look at my mama – she gave up her career to push mine forward, picked me up when designers said I had too much booty, and made me the woman I am today!
We are fierce. We are powerful! So head out into the big ole’ world today and turn some heads with your own quiet noise!
Mahatma Gandhi said:
Your beliefs become your thoughts.
Your thoughts become your words.
Your words become your actions.
Your actions become your habits.
Your habits become your values.
Your values become your destiny.